Men are from Mars.

Here is the obvious statement of the day.

Men and Women are different.

Sadly, money has been wasted on clinical studies to come to the same conclusion that I have come to in three months of marriage. While I've always known that I would never stop learning things about Jon, sometimes it strikes me particularly strongly that we have ways in which we may never understand each other. Despite all efforts to explain, ask questions, and seek clarification, sometimes I just have to shake my head and say "Ok....it's fine to walk away from this, accept his reasoning, and move on to more important things."

So here are some ways that I have realized Jon and I are different.

Jon can study with the TV on.
I can't.

I need to have time to turn my brain off after a trying event.
Jon wants to jump straight in a fix things.

I too easily dismiss small events I should fix but don't feel I have to.
Jon has a strong conviction to make things right before the end of the day.

Jon will eat peas.
I won't.

Jon can read the same book, watch the same commercial, or watch the same movie multiple times with equal enjoyment each time.
I don't laugh if I've heard the joke already.

I automatically remember to flush.
Jon doesn't.

I'm picky and self-critical about my cooking.
Jon just loves food.

Jon thinks through what is said before it's said.
I say things as they come to me, which often results in nonsense words (like snidering and flaggle) and incorrect word usage.

Jon is slow and consistent.
I am efficient but make mistakes.

Jon snores in his sleep.
I twitch and mumble.

These are just a few things, I'm sure I could add dozens a day if I thought about it. The lesson I take from all this is that it if ok and GOOD for us to be different. Just because we don't do things the same way doesn't mean one of us does it wrong.....a VERY important thought. Example: Just because Jon doesn't fold the way I doesn't mean it is wrong, or that I need to redo it. It's just different. And that is good.